With our moving date about a month away, I have had to double my efforts with selling and going through the vast amount of “stuff” that we still own. With everything I have done up until now, I feel I have made little more than a dent. Now that we know the layout and square footage of where we are moving, we have the green light to sell bigger items. Overall I find this process to be very therapeutic. However, there is still a sting with letting go of furniture and decorative items that at one point, I was so intentional about buying. We slowly picked out every single piece over the first couple years in our home. I do stop and remind myself that when I feel that sting, I am placing unnecessary feelings on things. Things that do not matter in the grand scheme of life. As the minimalists say, “Love people. Use things. The opposite never works.”
Aside from continuing to learn how to accept letting go, it’s also a lot of work! What I had originally hoped would have been accomplished in one trip (getting rid of all my clothes at one time), has definitely turned into multiple. That’s the price you pay when attempting to be intentional with the decluttering process and selling instead of donating. However, I am sure by the end of this I will be donating quite a bit. Thankfully, the process of selling has not been as daunting as I thought. Facebook marketplace is awesome. I have been able to sell things within 2 minutes of posting! With clothes, I make sure everything is washed, folded nicely, and brought in small batches to clothing exchange stores (often bringing back and selling the same items if not accepted the previous time.) We have also finally let go of our huge, untouched DVD collection. With the exception of our Star Wars and Disney movies of course!
I have also reevaluated my thoughts on sentimental items. If I honestly kept everything that meant something to me, this process would never happen. I have held onto many unused items out of fear of offending the person who may have given it to me. So I started a little ritual. Whatever item I deem unworthy of keeping (which is almost everything these days), I hold onto and say out loud how grateful I am for this gift and that I will continue to cherish the love and thought behind it even if it is not in my immediate possession. It may seem silly, but it has really helped me let go.
With my husband and I both fully on board, I have been pleasantly surprised at the amount of teamwork we have accomplished. With every big item that leaves our life, we look at each other and smile at the thought of our hopeful future. This process has made me fall in love with my husband all over again. There is something truly special about making the conscious decision to pursue a different type of life together. I never imagined that our values would end up aligning this closely and that minimalism would strengthen our bond the way that it has. I am so proud of him. I am so proud of us. This will continue to be an overwhelming month I’m sure, but I will keep everyone updated on this big step in our journey!
“No, I’m not going to tell them about the downsizing. If a patient has cancer, you don’t tell them.” – Michael Scott.